The Things You Need To Know About How Self Esteem Is Built

By Eve Francis

There are all kinds of ways that self esteem can be built, and the most important ways are those that are developed when the individual is young and impressionable because there are many consequences for those of us who have low self esteem as there are great possibilities for those who have a positive outlook.

As an individual grows, his beliefs develop along with his growth----positive or negative----how capable or valuable they feel they are in dealing with society. These beliefs are the hallmarks in how self esteem is built in a person, and they produce a either a positive outlook in the person's mind as to how society perceives him, or a negative outlook, which can affect his dealings with other people. It is a fact, that folks with a positive self image are much more successful in life.

One of the major causes of negative self image we find when we study how self esteem is built, is the tremendous influence that parental interaction has. A loving, rewarding experience with your parents while maturing will produce a positive self image, but a negative experience with your parents who just did not show love, or did not feel that you were worthy of their love; will produce the opposite. There are other factors at play here as well; if you had trouble with authority figures who made you feel insignificant, or teachers who made you feel stupid; or siblings and friends you teased you to the point of tears; all these can figure in a feeling of negative self worth.

The difference between folks with a positive self image and those that have a negative self image, is that those on the positive side of the fence are very often the go getters in life, take the initiative in a lot of situations, take on responsibilities readily, and pursues his dreams; but on the flip side, the negative side, that person is quite often introverted, can't seem to set any goals or accomplish anything meaningful in his life, and shies away from taking on any responsibilities.

It is important to understand how self esteem is built and to use that information to develop your own opinion of yourself. Be aware of how you talk; be positive---no negative talk because it affects the way you perceive yourself. You are just as good as the next person and you need to correct the negative thoughts that run through your head. Practice talking positively to yourself in the mirror and you will be amazed at how well the positive input works after a while.

Face your fears, appreciate yourself, reward yourself, and stop trying to please everyone; do something good for yourself and to impress yourself----possibly learn something new and learn to do it well---things like that. Think of as many positive things as you can that will help you feel better about yourself and soon you will see how self esteem is built, and can continue the process throughout your life and in everything you do.

If you want to be the best and most positive person you possibly can be, then you must understand how self esteem is built and what are the important factors you must practice every day to make a positive outlook a reality for you. Steer clear of the things that create negative feelings inside you and traumatize you, so that your self esteem diminishes. Stay positive, think positive thoughts, and act in such a way that reinforces the good that thinking and acting positively does for you, and your life will take a much better direction. - 30309

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